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INVITATION
I should preface this by saying that I believe couples should do whatever they think is right for their wedding day, including wording their invitations however they are comfortable. However, below is the proper way to word invitations based on different scenarios.

WHO'S PAYING?
CHURCH WEDDINGS
(honor of your presence)

The Couple
Jane Marie Smith
and
John Michael Jones
request the honor of your presence

as they unite in marriage

Bride's Parents
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith 
request the pleasure of your company 
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Marie 
to 
John Michael Jones

-OR-

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith 
request the pleasure of your company 
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Marie 
to 
John Michael
son of Mr. and Mrs. William Jones

If bride's parents are divorced and both paying, they should be listed on two separate lines without the word "and" in between.
​The mother should be listed first unless she is not contributing to the cost.


Groom's Parents
Mr. and Mrs. William Jones
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of
Jane Marie Smith
to their son
John Michael
​
SECULAR WEDDINGS
(pleasure of your company)

The Couple
Jane Marie Smith
and
John Michael Jones
request the pleasure of your company

as they unite in marriage

Bride's Parents
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith 
request the pleasure of your company 
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Marie 
to 
John Michael Jones

-OR-

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith 
request the pleasure of your company 
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Marie 
to 
John Michael
son of Mr. and Mrs. William Jones

If bride's parents are divorced and both paying, they should be listed on two separate lines without the word "and" in between.
​The mother should be listed first unless she is not contributing to the cost.


Groom's Parents
Mr. and Mrs. William Jones
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of
Jane Marie Smith
to their son
John Michael
​

HONOR VS. PLEASURE
The difference between honor vs. pleasure is a church wedding vs. a non-church wedding.

If you're having a church wedding, it should be request the honor of your ...
If you're having a non-church wedding, it should be request the pleasure of your ...
​
THE DETAILS
All wording 

INCLUDING DECEASED PARENTS
Al





RSVP
Helpful tip: Many couples complain that a few guests will send the RSVP cards back and forget to put their names on it. To avoid this problem, number the back of the RSVP cards and keep a corresponding list so you know which RSVP  belongs to which guest. 





ENCLOSURE CARDS
I often receive inquires for help wording enclosure cards. Here are some ideas that I've collected over the years:

ADULTS ONLY RECEPTION


CASH GIFTS PREFERRED

Etiquette books would say that couples should never request gifts of any kind when sending out their wedding invitations. Registry information should be sent out with bridal shower invitations but not with the wedding invitation (directing guests to your wedding website, where registry information is provided, is a great way around this rule). However, nowadays many couples own homes or live together before they're married, and the traditional wedding gifts are often not needed. If you're indifferent towards protocols and would like to make sure guests know your desires, you are certainly free to request cash gifts on either the back of your invitations or on a separate insert card. Below are some ideas for how to do so.

​If you were thinking of giving a gift
to help us on our way,
A gift of money towards our honeymoon
would really make our day.
However, if you prefer to purchase a gift
feel free to surprise us in your own special way.

Our life together has already begun,
We have almost everything under the sun.
If you were thinking of buying a gift,
A little extra money would give us a lift.
But most importantly, we request,
You share our day as our wedding guest.
Now that we've saved you any fuss,
We can't wait for you to celebrate with us!
More than just kisses so far we've shared,
Our home has been made with love and care.
Most things we need we've already got,
And in our home we can't fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,
But only if you wish to participate.
A gift of money is placed in the well,
Then make a wish ... but shhh don't tell!

Once we've replaced the old with the new,
​We can look back and say it was thanks to you.

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